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Saturday, March 27, 2010

Jill Scott's Take On Interracial Relationships

Black men dating white women has evolved into a redudant topic that I am bored with and have learned to avoid;however, I came across an insightful article written by Jill Scott on the subject of interacial dating and I felt compelled to post it...sorry for those who may be offended...offending you is not my intention.

You know the moment when you realize that fine, accomplished brother is with a White woman? Let’s call it “the wince.”

My new friend is handsome, African-American, intelligent and seemingly wealthy. He is an athlete, loves his momma, and is happily married to a White woman. I admit when I saw his wedding ring, I privately hoped. But something in me just knew he didn’t marry a sister. Although my guess hit the mark, when my friend told me his wife was indeed Caucasian, I felt my spirit…wince. I didn’t immediately understand it. My face read happy for you. My body showed no reaction to my inner pinch, but the sting was there, quiet like a mosquito under a summer dress.

Was I jealous? Did the reality of his relationship somehow diminish his soul’s credibility? The answer is not simple. One could easily dispel the wince as racist or separatist, but that’s not how I was brought up. I was reared in a Jehovah’s Witness household. I was taught that every man should be judged by his deeds and not his color, and I firmly stand where my grandmother left me. African people worldwide are known to be welcoming and open-minded. We share our culture sometimes to our own peril and most of us love the very notion of love. My position is that for women of color, this very common “wince” has solely to do with the African story in America.

When our people were enslaved, “Massa” placed his Caucasian woman on a pedestal. She was spoiled, revered and angelic, while the Black slave woman was overworked, beaten, raped and farmed out like cattle to be mated. She was nothing and neither was our Black man. As slavery died for the greater good of America, and the movement for equality sputtered to life, the White woman was on the cover of every American magazine. She was the dazzling jewel on every movie screen, the glory of every commercial and television show. She was unequivocally the standard of beauty for this country, firmly unattainable to anyone not of her race. We daughters of the dust were seen as ugly, nappy mammies, good for day work and unwanted children, while our men were thought to be thieving, sex-hungry animals with limited brain capacity.

We reflect on this awful past and recall that if a Black man even looked at a White woman, he would have been lynched, beaten, jailed or shot to death. In the midst of this, Black women and Black men struggled together, mourned together, starved together, braved the hoses and vicious police dogs and died untimely on southern back roads together. These harsh truths lead to what we really feel when we see a seemingly together brother with a Caucasian woman and their children. That feeling is betrayed. While we exert efforts to raise our sons and daughters to appreciate themselves and respect others, most of us end up doing this important work alone, with no fathers or like representatives, limited financial support (often court-enforced) and, on top of everything else, an empty bed. It’s frustrating and it hurts!

Our minds do understand that people of all races find genuine love in many places. We dig that the world is full of amazing options. But underneath, there is a bite, no matter the ointment, that has yet to stop burning. Some may find these thoughts to be hurtful. That is not my intent. I’m just sayin’.

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Five Ways of Knowing That He Is Feeling You!

Beside the obvious, there are five simple things that a man can do that will let you know if he is feeling you:

1. He smiles as you approach him.
2. He sets a routine whether it be something as simple as sending a “good morning” or “good night” text
3. Kisses you while you are asleep
4. Factors you into his schedule...you aren’t’ simply an afterthought
5. Last but not least, if that man sits you between his legs and rubs and/or greases your scalp...then his azz is a keeper!!!!

Ladies, feel free to add to this list :)

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Wednesday, March 17, 2010

Today's Sister Gurl Advice Is...

Gurl's the next time you find yourself constantly checking your phone for missed calls and/or sitting at home alone on a Friday night, pick up the book "He Is Just Not That Into You" because chances are that he is just not that into you!

Sunday, October 11, 2009

Frankie @ The B.E.T Hip Hop Awards

This is why B.E.T is a f'en joke! Out of everyone to host the B.E.T Hip Hop Awards Red Carpet, they chose Frankie. As expected, Frankie showed up on the scene looking tacky as hell! Her wig-a MESS, her clothing-A MESS and the platinum grille, a f****ing MESS! Dear Frankie, we aren't laughing with you, we are laughing at you!

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Friday, October 9, 2009

Today's H.A.M: Russell "Slimy" Simmons

This fake azz-wannabe-Dalai lama-mother (shut your mouth!) needs to sit his old azz down somewhere! I wish I was at that beach, I would have thrown a bucket of "negroe pleaz!" on his azz!

Umm, question...WTF is up with the sand?

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Today's Celeb Drama: Tameka Pulled A Jazmine Sullivan, Soulja Boy Arrested, The Game & 4 The Love Of Ray J Coming Back,

According to TMZ, Usher had to call the po-po on Tameka's crazy azz for trepassing and vandazling one of his cars. Because there was no proof that Tameka did it, there wasn’t much that the officers could do, but being the crazy chick that she is, Tameka returned later that day to get her scratch on again. Tameka bounced when Ush called the cops. LOL! Hmm, seems as if Tameka has been spending too much time listening to Jazmine Sullivan "Bust Your Windows."
This chick needs to just go home and relax, calculate her child support and alimony papers and figure out a way to dig her cougar paws into Trey Songz’s 24 year-old fyne azz!

Soulja Boy was arrested for obstruction of justice on Wednesday. Apparently Soulja Boy was at an abandoned house where a boot-leg music video was being shot,with a group of people, when the cops arrived. As expected, the fools quickly hauled azz upon sight of the boys in blue. Soulja Boy being one of those fools returned later that night for his Range Rover and guess who was their waiting on him….the cops!!!

It’s a good chance that “The Game” will be back on air!!!! “The show is getting picked up, so for people that have been petitioning and wondering, it is coming back to BET. So, hopefully, you will see me back,” Drew Sidora said, spilling the beans to Sister 2 Sister. “It is official. The deal has been done.” Drew also said. *Excuse me while I do my happy dance!*

Speaking of comebacks. VH1 will be airing season 2 of For The Love of Ray J. I can’t front, I watched Season 1 and I actually enjoyed it. By the way, did you know that Danger is pregnant and that Ray J was one of the guest at her baby shower, which was thrown by Stilts. Oh yea, Cashmere was also there.

Lisa Raye is working on a reality show. Ok, so let me get this straight. Michael Vick, Monica and now Lisa Raye are coming out with reality shows. Eddie Griffin, Tiny, Toya, Frankie, Neffe and T.O, have reality shows. When the hell is someone RELEVANT, like Beyonce, or Rhianna going to bless us with a reality show? Let me guess, Amerie, Mya and Christina Milan will be next?